‘Get Outta My Face!’ is written by Rick Horne D.Min. Doctor Rick is the Director of Guidance for Delaware County Christian School and coordinates the graduate level School Guidance Counseling concentration for Columbia International University. He has over thirty years working with teens in the Christian schools and should be able to tell us a lot about how to get through to them.
The primary intention of ‘Get Outta My Face!’ is to provide resources for working with angry or unmotivated teens. I couldn’t help but feel like all of my teens, in some way or another, fall into that category. As I read the book, many of my teens came to mind. Long before I finished the book, I could see elements of the books teaching coming through in my interactions with the teens in our church.
What really impressed me about the book is that Rick doesn’t philosophize or psychoanalyze. He simply presents a method for understanding the teen’s needs and coaching them to meet those needs—and biblically. Rick continually returns to scripture as the foundation of his counseling method. Where Rick’s method isn’t clearly laid out in scripture, the book of Proverbs is used as the theological underpinning of the method.
I’m going to provide you a brief synopsis of the method, but I should really not be calling it a method. It is more of an outline for coaching and building relationships. It’s not a three step process to getting teens on track, but a way to build relationships and point them to the cross where they are able to see clearly and make wise decisions. For simplicity sake, though, I’ll continue calling it a method.
The method is LCLP. An entire chapter is devoted to each of these letters. Reading these chapters is crucial to really understanding the depth of how these principles can be applied. Here are the basic principles:
- Listening big is to make a connection with the teen so that they trust you. If they don’t trust you, you will never get to the root of the problem.
- Clarifying narrow is working with the teen to allow them to see the reality of their circumstances—they rarely have a firm grasp on what is frustrating them.
- Looking wide is working with the teen to find solutions. Rick has some profoundly insightful advice on how to do this.
- Planning small is making a game plan for resolving the conflict that has caused the teen to become angry or unmotivated.
I would definitely recommend ‘Get Outta My Face!’ for anyone working with teens or for any parent with teens or preteens. I can’t think of anything in this book that I would disagree with. I could sum this book up by saying it is logical, insightful, biblical and practical.
My prayer for the readers of this book is that they will become better equipped to counsel the youth in their lives and point them to the cross for daily sanctification, but also for salvation.
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